sex education for children

Why Need Sex Education?

Children and adolescents are vulnerable to misinformation about sex. If you do not get proper sex education, they will be consumed myths about sex that is not true. Information on sex should be obtained directly from parents who have special attention to their children.

The survey results National Family Planning Coordinating Board (BKKBN) shows that more than 60 percent of teens in Indonesia have premarital sex. The figures are quite alarming in the country upholding the moral values regarding sex. Why they could make pre-marital sex? The reason for the lack of sex education to children and adolescents. When did sex education can begin to do?


When to Start Sex Education?

When did sex education can begin to be given to children? Some parents often answering questions with short answers sex: "Wait you're great!". Actually the best time to give sex education is early! Sex education begins even since the child was a toddler.

If you delay giving sex education when your child enters adolescence, then it was too late. Because in an era where information is easily obtained from the Internet and peers, the teen-aged children when they have to know more about sex and most probably from the wrong perspective.


How Sex Education Provided?

How is the best way to provide sex education to your children? Here are some stages of life and how to provide sex education in accordance with the level of your child's age.

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Toddlers (1-5 years)
At this age, you can begin to instill sex education. The way is easy, that is by starting to introduce to your baby sex organs of his brief. No need to give a detailed explanation because the attention span of children is usually short.

For example, when bathing your child, you can tell the various organs of the child's body, such as hair, head, hands, feet, stomach, and do not forget the penis and vagina or vulva. Then explain differences in genitalia of the opposite sex, for example, if your child has a younger brother of the opposite sex.

In addition, tandaskan also that the genitals should not be exhibited in vain, and also explain if there is a touch without known parents, the child must shout out loud and reports to parents. Thus, your children can be protected against the rampant cases of sexual violence and sexual abuse of children.
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Age 3-10 years
At this age, children usually begin to actively ask about sex. For example, children will ask where it originated. Or general questions such as how the origin of the baby. The answers are simple and straightforward is usually effective.

Example # 1: "Babies come from?" You can answer the mother's abdomen. Or you can show me a mother who is pregnant and showing the location of the baby in the mother's abdomen.

Example # 2: "How's the baby out of the tummy?" You can answer the baby out of vagina or vulva hole to get out of the mother's abdomen.

Example # 3: "Why can there be a baby in the stomach?" You can answer that baby in the mother's abdomen because there are seeds given by the father to the mother. The trick is father to enter the seed using a penis and the vagina of the mother. It's called sexual intercourse, and it should only be done by men and women who have married.
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Towards Age Youth
As the child grows, start time for you to explain about menstruation, wet dreams, and also the physical changes that happen to a teenager. You could explain that little girl will experience changes in breast shape, or explain the existence grow feathers around her genitals.
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Age Youth
At this time, a teen will be sexually experienced many changes. You need more intensive instill good moral values to him. Give a description of the loss of free sex like a disease that is transmitted and the emotional consequences.

According to research, sex education early will avoid pregnancy outside of marriage when the children grow into adolescence and later adulthood. No need to be taboo to talk about sex in the family. Because your child needs to get the right information from their parents, not from other people about sex.

Because a great curiosity, if the child is not provided sex education, then they will seek answers from others, and would be more frightening if sex information obtained from peers or the Internet that their information could be wrong. Therefore, protect your children from an early age by equipping them with education about sex the right way.

Free Teens Lifestyle - Sex, Cigarettes, Consumerism

Once we enter the era of life with a global communications system, with the ease of accessing information through print media, TV, internet, comics, media, mobile, and pirated DVDs on the loose in society, certainly provide great benefits for our lives. Every phenomenon that exists and happens in the world, will certainly give a positive value and negative. Highly dependent on the mindset and the foundation of their personal lives.
Each individual of us will feel happy with the presence of the product or service that is more sophisticated and practical. No exception of Internet technology that has been pulling down the boundary and the medium of television that provides entertainment, information and actual news. Likewise, mobile phones have helped fellow human beings for communication at any time with one another despite being the world's North-South or the East - the Sea.
Technology + Freedom - Education = Destruction

Each technology has a positive effect and negative. The rise of mobile phone use has lowered the individual interactions directly. This would tend to make the pattern of human life becomes indivualistis. This negative impact would be reduced and even avoided if only the user has an understanding / knowledge, ethics and attitudes are strong (positive-wise) to harness something selective and effective.
This is the point of the problem for children and adolescents. Internal Filters (understanding, ethics and attitudes) of children and adolescents are still very fragile. In the current era of complexity of today's life, parents (especially in urban areas) have lost the power to educate and build families for their children. This is compounded by the rise of "toxins" are accepted by our children today. Violent scenes, sexual, mystical, and hedonism in the TV media, newspapers and the Internet, as well as school education system that fails to build character, has been attacking our children today.
On the other hand, low regulation and law inforcement from the government and its apparatus, has led to rogue elements of our young generation destroyer "breed: rapidly. CCN between the authorities and an entrepreneur in the regulation, publication and distribution of media caused millions of Indonesia's future leaders at the end of extinction. A series of concerns about children and young people today such as juvenile delinquency, consumerist-hedonistic lifestyle, promiscuity, smoking, drugs, and addiction to games on line almost to the culture of "lifestyle" today's teens.
Technology without filtration (necessary regulations for freedom is not broken) and the fragility of education / human characters lead to the destruction of the nation.
Cigarettes, Drugs, Sex, and AIDS

Amid news students to excel in the arena of research, science olympics, arts and sports, youth Indonesia is currently threatened in times of chaos. Millions of our youth become victims of corporate-nicotine cigarettes. More than 2 million Indonesian adolescents addicted to drugs (BNN 2004) and over 8000 young people diagnosed with AIDS (MOH 2008). In addition, the morals of children in sexual relations has entered a phase of mengawatirkan. More than 60% of junior and senior high youth of Indonesia, was not a virgin anymore. Smoking behavior has undermined the joints of our community life.
Based on survey results of the National Commission for Child Protection in collaboration with the Child Protection Agency (LPA) in 12 provinces in 2007 obtained recognition of adolescents that:
- A total of 93.7% and secondary school children had to do kissing, petting, and oral sex.
- As many as 62.7% of children in junior high school claimed to have no virgin.
- A total of 21.2% high school teenager claimed to have an abortion.
- Of the 2 million Indonesian women who had had abortions, 1 million are adolescent girls.
- As many as 97% of middle and high school students admitted like watching porn.
Recognition of High School Girls, Teens Is this Us?

"Now I'm back singles. It's been two years broke up. Pain too! After four years of courtship, and was like man and wife. In the past, each time met, sex turmoil just showed up. Continue ML (making love) deh. Usually we lakuin activity in the hotel. Sometimes at home, too, if people go home again all. If the house is not longer just a quiet yes most daring kiss and touch here and there. To me, all that unusual. Nglakuinnya because I feel confident I'm sure they'll be husband. I'm not afraid of sin. Kan we both want to, so there is no coercion. Sin occurs not when there is paksaaan. I think so! Time off, I do not regret it already nglakuin, exhausted, like how again! Relax! About sex education, I never received from parents. Most of the friends, magazines, books, or movies "
That narrative Neila (pseudonym), grade 3 a high school student in East Jakarta, who had just undergone UAN. Without load, this petite cute teen recounts. He and his girlfriend know what to do in order to premarital sex was not made her pregnant.
Until now, Neila sure her parents had no idea that his second daughter behavior. "I'm not going to Ceritalah, they can die suddenly. Friends who know even exist, of course who have similar experiences, "she said, twisting her hair.

According to him, ML among teenagers today is not that too familiar. In fact, there are deliberately seduce adult men who can be found in malls and other public places, to get money or valuables, such as the latest models of mobile phones, branded watches, clothes, shoes, bags, and so forth. "No profession really, just for fun. Calculated could create a style. Mending `I do, that's just the same nglakuinnya boyfriend and not for money," she said.
Allow or Acting?

We should go back to the roots of our national culture. Much earlier, the Indonesian nation is a nation that has a value of root (root value) culture that upholds the values of humanity and decency, as stated in the philosophy and values of Pancasila. Condition that afflicts young people today, must be fostered and educated so that they become leaders who have a high morality to build the nation and country.
All parties must feel responsible for this case. Besides the parents, the community role is essential. Our education system must also be changed. Do not raise the budget without increasing the real value of education. The government should strictly implement the laws, and the businessmen, merchants, and Internet web try to stop spreading things that are destructive (because our generation is still fragile.)
Things that should be done:
- The Government firmly filtration soap operas, movies or ads that contain sexual violence, promiscuity, mystical-religious, violence, religion, divination and gambling.
- Follow strict offenders Child Protection Act
- Menfilter porn sites in Indonesia. Until now only have 6 Porn Site of Indonesia's Most accessed
- Building Youth Centre, a center of education and creation for youth for positive activities.
- By actively controlling the promotion (advertising) and distribution of cigarettes.
- Prioritize prevention programs child trafficking, commercial sexual exploitation of children, and drugs.
- Educate the public that do not alienate the children (who are victims), help them to get out of their problems (material or moral).

SEX THE NAME OF LOVE (Adolescent Sexual Behaviour in the Surakarta Indonesia)

The theme of love seemed never exhausted to talk, never cracked to narrated, never stale for discussion. Every person is different in the manifest love. For parents, love is happiness when the baby looks cute and clever or love is the protection and expression of love saying when her baby was sick so lost joy. The wise man said to the child's parents love is true love.

If he is an eroticism, then love for him is how many pieces he has vcd porn watch, how many women who have been dating and how much he teasing and abusing it. Maybe he was supporting the theory of Sigmund freud who believes that human life is driven by the id (libido) only. Love does not always bring pleasure but can also bring sadness, disappointment and even hatred. Between love and sexual freedom really different, love is love each other, watch each other, protect each other, give each other with firm boundaries syar'i.

Research Results

In 2005, the author conducted research on the sexual behavior of adolescent high school in Surakarta. The subject of this study amounted to 1250 persons, derived from 10 high school in Surakarta, which consisted of 611 male subjects and 639 female subjects.

Most subjects had used the media of pornography, the male subjects as many as 497 people (81.34%) and 181 female subjects (28.32%); subjects who claimed never to use the media of pornography on male subjects as many as 114 people ( 18.66%), female subjects 458 individuals (71.67%). Most of the subjects said they had watched pornographic movies, the male subjects as many as 403 people (28.54%) and 111 female subjects (34.91%), a small portion of pornography through the photos on male subjects 135 people (9, 56%) and female subjects 22 people (6.92%).

Some subjects 212 were male (34.69%) admitted that sometimes doing masturbation, female subjects 27 people (4.23%), and 77 people (12.60%) male subjects and 9 people (1, 41%) women admitted until now still active in masturbation.

Most of the subjects claimed to have been dating. Age of first dating mostly 15-17 years male subjects as many as 246 people (53.25%) and 272 female subjects (57.99%), aged 20-22 years by 1 person (0.22%) on the subject of women was not found. Most of the subjects claimed to have changed a girlfriend for 1-2 times, namely on the subject of male-lakisebanyak 194 people (41.99%) and in female subjects as many as 196 people (41.79%). Most of the subjects admitted undergo courtship activity 2 - 6 months, namely the male subjects 171 (37.01%) in female subjects as many as 153 people (32.62%), on the subject of male courtship activity less than 1 month as many as 81 people (17.53 %) in female subjects as many as 67 people (14.28%). Courtship activity subject mostly done at home itself is in the male subjects 164 people (23.33%), on the subject of women as much as 37 people (5.23%).

Subjects who had sexual intercourse of 462 male subjects of dating found in 139 people (30.09%), who claimed to have had sexual intercourse than women who are dating 469 subjects found 25 people (5.33%). The reason they have sex as a proof of love in the male subjects of 57 people (38.51%), whereas in female subjects 6 people (24%); by reason of being raped or forced the male subjects 4 people (2.70 %) in female subjects 2 people (8%).

Age of the subject was first sexual intercourse is 15-17 years which is in men by 60 people (43.16%) in female subjects 12 people (48%). Sexual intercourse is mostly conducted along with her boyfriend, the male subjects 105 (53.29%) while in female subjects 21 people (84%).

After having sexual relations most subjects were satisfied or pleasure, the male subjects 61 people (43.88%), whereas in female subjects of 3 people (12%). Most subjects believe sexual intercourse is sinful: in male subjects 329 individuals (34.52%), whereas in female subjects 417 individuals (42.12%).

Most of the reason teenagers have sex is due to environmental influences, vcd, books and pornographic movies that is: the male subjects as many as 389 people (29.07%), whereas in female subjects 444 individuals (31.11%). The reason for the progress of time and let slang, male subjects 113 people (8.44%), in female subjects 99 people (6.94%).

sex education in teens still it necessary?

During this time many people who question the usefulness of sex education for adolescents. Really there is no point? What is the status of sex education in foreign countries? Let us refer to the comparison!

ScienceDaily (Mar.20, 2008). Recent research shows that comprehensive sex education can reduce the likelihood of teenage pregnancy, and there is no indication that it is increasing the level of sexual activity or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). "There is absolutely no harm to teach teens about birth control, in addition to the denial of sexual relations, 'said study leader, Pamela Kohler, a program manager at the University of Washington in Seattle. Parents and educators have long argued, whether the student should get a teaching birth control, or easily just say no to free sex. Which option is better to postpone sex among adolescents.

Kohler and colleagues studied the results of national survey of the United States in 2002 and focused on heterosexual teens ages 15 to 19 years. These findings, based on responses from 1719 adolescents, published in the Journal of Adolescent Health. After reviewing the results, researchers found that one in four teens received abstinence education only sex. Nine percent, particularly in poor and rural areas, do not receive sex education at all. Two-thirds of the remainder receive comprehensive instruction, with discussion of birth control and abstinence. Adolescents who received comprehensive sex education have 60 percent less likely to get pregnant, than who did not receive sex education at all. The possibility of pregnancy is 30 percent lower in those who received sex education abstinence only, than those who did not receive sex, but researchers assume that this number is statistically insignificant because few teens who fall into categories studied.

Although they did not reach statistical signifkansi, other surveys also suggest that comprehensive sex education, not the denial of sex alone, reduce the likelihood of teens engaging in vaginal intercourse. Both approaches reduce the likelihood of STDs are not reported, but the result is not statistically significant. However, these findings advocate comprehensive sex education, according to Kohler said. 'There is no evidence to support that denial of sex education course to reduce the likelihood of sexual intercourse, or pregnancy', Kohler said again.

Don Operario, PhD., A professor at Oxford University in England said that the study provides "further evidence ', to use comprehensive sex education and lack of effectiveness of the abstinence approach to sex alone. However, these studies do not show how educators should implement comprehensive sex education in the classroom, said Operario, who studies sex education. 'We need a better understanding of the most effective way to provide the type of education in order to maximize student understanding and acceptance of community', said Operario.

sex education for child

Sex Education In Early Childhood
Provide Sex Education in Early Childhood

Does your child begin to ask you about sex? If so, then baby is ready to be taught sex education right now. In addition to parents at home who can provide sex education to children, teachers at school also has a big share to equip students children about sex education. According A.T. Meilandari, S.sn, marketing communications Indonesian Carpediem School, said the introduction of inappropriate sex given to children aged under five as long as the content is not excessive, and still refers to the simple things.
Through sex education in schools, it supplies more mature children about sexuality and very useful in the future. Children also get the knowledge when the act, such as what should be done and that should not be done. Given several events irregularities frequently occur in society, sex education early in children to enable them to protect themselves from acts that are not good.
Teach the child to say NO in adults can be an unknown / foreign. It became one of effective prevention to prevent sexual harassment and other matters that are not desired.
Methods in schools to educate the students pre-school and kindergarten about sex education, it can be done by:

* 1 year
Introduce children to the parts of his body sendiri.Di this age, children need to be introduced to members of the body. Introduce the name of the body, as well as differences and functions, while you're bathing or shower with the children. You can also use books and props, human doll for example. Do not forget to remain calm when you have to be naked in front of the child while bathing or changing clothes.

* 2 years
Can recognize and name parts of the body At the age of 2 years, children generally can mention parts of his body smoothly, such as eyes, nose, ears, hands, and feet. To make it more familiar with other body parts, you can also make this activity more fun. Pack in the form of the game. Indicate the body (you just say it anyway), such as ear, then invite your child to be holding his ears. So also in other body parts you mentioned.

* 3 years
Know the difference if your child is able to recognize his own body parts, it's time to introduce the gender differences. Introduce the two categories of male and female sexes. Explain also male genitalia is a penis and women is the vagina, as well as differences of form and function. By introducing the parts of the body and the difference, the child will have a favorable view of the body.

* 4 years
Keeping yourself When children are getting bigger, teach that part of her genitals-not-be held by any person, except by the mother (while bathing) and doctors (when I'm sick). They must immediately report directly to parents or teachers when there are other people who touched her private parts. Aside from being a form of sex education to keep the private parts of her body, it can make a child protected from sexual violence.

* 5 years
Orderly and Caring Ourselves Along with the development of age, at this stage the child get used to urinating in the right place. Familiarize him urinate in the toilet, not in trees, bushes, or public places that are open. To change her clothes as well get used to looking for a room or toilet and not do it in public. Teach your children and get used to clean the genitals properly, especially after bladder / bowel movements. Do not forget to teach him always wash hands after bladder / bowel movement, and explain that the germs can enter through the vagina / penis and anal.

Beyond all that, parents and teachers is the best place to ask for the child. Make sex as something natural and personal part of health. Sex is not something that is wrong, dirty, dirty, or shameful because it is part of normal growth, so no need to worry about. So it's not a day longer respond to early sex education is taboo for your baby.
Do and Do not
In providing sex education to children, do not match when you teach in adults. Need to be careful and simple language, the most important is a concrete example for baby's easy to understand for your explanation. Here are tips for you:

1. May
- Give a demonstration-a demonstration of interest in clarifying the notion of
sex.
- Use examples of people, like my mother / father, friends, or people
the nearest known and your child.
- Give an explanation with the words that are easy to understand / very simple.
- Emphasize the baby, though different gender but can not distinguish
each other.

2. No
- Never give an explanation with the new words children hear,
especially difficult terms.
- Do not give meaning to the very vulgar.
- Do not give an explanation with so seriously that make children
confused
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sex education

Amid the rapid progress of construction of the city of Jakarta, turned out to deviant sexual behavior has become common knowledge. The phenomenon of lesbian, homosexual and even heterosexual can easily be found in various places. Lesbian phenomenon has occurred even since long Indeed, comparing the lesbian phenomenon that occurs first with the now, of course very different. Its growth is now more rapidly and tend to uncontrollably. In fact, it's a lifestyle most people capital. Therefore, parents should supervise teenage daughter in order to avoid the threat of viruses lesbian.

For example, one told by a lesbian, you name it Bebi (not her real name). According to him, thousands of teenage girls in Jakarta has become perpetrators of lesbianism. "The average age of 17-18 years of hell. There are indeed from the beginning has been turned, but most of them infected due to 'hanging out'," said Bebi, the Buchi another term lesbian.

There are several terms that they use in communication between their own communities, such as Buchi, the term for couples who act as men. The style they also tend to look like a man, with hair cut bondol and baggy clothes. While femm, the term for the couple who acted as women, they look like normal women in general, which is feminine. There is also andro, where people can play as well as male and female.

This phenomenon really is not hidden anymore. Not infrequently some of them show their deviant sexual behavior openly in society. As can be seen in one of the fast-food restaurants in the area of Grand Indonesia, South Jakarta, which is one of the lesbian community gathering place. Specifically, on every Saturday night, can be found lesbian couples to visit and act like people going out, holding hands, making out, even the occasional kiss her partner. Phenomena such as if it was not a taboo anymore for them.

"We're still cool wrote, which is important we feel comfortable with each partner. If anyone feel keganggu with our presence, so I do not care. Instead we think, the existence of lienes (lesbian) so it adds a colorful world. If you do not There we are, maybe the world feels very bland, yes, there's just a girl the same guy, not varied, "said Bebi.

Bebi is one among lesbians who have felt strange to him since he was sitting in sixth grade elementary school. As time went, he kept aware and determined to behave like men and like the same sex. Until today he kept his pledge to remain current. "Cave including pure Buchi, that is, the cave is really ngerasain from cave own self, not because of the association. But, now even girls lesbian nganggap nih lifestyle. She said it felt stale wrote that has never ngerasain 'turn'," he said.

When asked about the opinion of the people around him about the change that, he actually replied calmly that his family already knew it. "The family all knew the cave cave like this. Yes, his parents, certainly disappointed. Who also wants his son like this.

But, how else would. Cave also do not ask dilahirin like this, really. So, I run it as it is. In fact, once you know dating the same cave cave own cousin, "said Bebi again, who is currently studying in the second semester at one private university in Jakarta